(Chart Below Adapted from Arrow Ministries – Original Source is Unknown)
| SUBJECT | ORPHANED FROM GOD | MARKS OF A CHILD OF GOD |
| Condition | Bondage | Liberty |
| Dependency | Independent/self-reliant | Interdependent/Acknowledges need |
| Expression of Love | Guarded and conditional; based upon others’ performance as you seek to get your own needs met | Open, patient, and affectionate as you lay your life and agendas down in order to meet the needs of others |
| Future | Fight for what you can get! | Release your inheritance! |
| Handling Others Faults | Accusation and exposure in order to make yourself look good by making others look bad | Love covers as you seek to restore others in a spirit of love and gentleness |
| Image of God | See God as Master | See God as loving Father |
| Motive for Purity | ‘Must” be holy to have God’s favor, thus increasing a sense of shame and guilt | “Want to” be holy; do not want anything to hinder your intimate relationship with God |
| Motive for service | A need for personal achievement as you seek to impress God and others, or no motivation to serve at all | Service that is motivated by a deep gratitude for being unconditionally loved and accepted by God |
| Need for approval | Strive for the praise, approval, and acceptance of man | Totally accepted in God’s love and justified by grace |
| Peer Rela-
tionships |
Competition, rivalry, and jealousy toward others’ success and position | Humility and unity as you value others and are able to rejoice in their blessings and success |
| Position | Feel like a servant/slave | Feel like a beloved son/daughter |
| Sense of God’s Presence | Conditional and Distant | Close and intimate |
| Source of Comfort | Seek comfort in counterfeit affections: addictions, compulsions, escapism, busyness, hyper-religious activity | Seek times of quietness and solitude, to rest in the Father’s presence and love |
| Theology | Live by the love of Law | Live by the Law of Love |
| View of Admonition | Difficulty receiving admonition; you must be right so you easily get your feelings hurt and close your spirit to discipline | See the receiving of admonition as a blessing and need in your life so that your faults and weaknesses are exposed and put to death |
| View of Authority | See authority as a source of pain; distrustful toward them and lack a heart attitude of submission | Respectful, honoring; you see them as ministers of God for good in your life |
| Vision | Spiritual ambition; the earnest desire for some spiritual achievement and distinction and the willingness to strive for it; a desire to be seen counted among the mature | To daily experience the Father’s unconditional love and acceptance and then be sent as a representative of his love to family and others |
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