Are You A Spiritual Orphan or Child of God? By Arrow Ministries

(Chart Below Adapted from Arrow Ministries – Original Source is Unknown)

Condition Bondage Liberty
Dependency Independent/self-reliant Interdependent/Acknowledges need
Expression of Love Guarded and conditional; based upon others’ performance as you seek to get your own needs met Open, patient, and affectionate as you lay your life and agendas down in order to meet the needs of others
Future Fight for what you can get! Release your inheritance!
Handling Others Faults Accusation and exposure in order to make yourself look good by making others look bad Love covers as you seek to restore others in a spirit of love and gentleness
Image of God See God as Master See God as loving Father
Motive for Purity ‘Must” be holy to have God’s favor, thus increasing a sense of shame and guilt “Want to” be holy; do not want anything to hinder your intimate relationship with God
Motive for service A need for personal achievement as you seek to impress God and others, or no motivation to serve at all Service that is motivated by a deep gratitude for being unconditionally loved and accepted by God
Need for approval Strive for the praise, approval, and acceptance of man Totally accepted in God’s love and justified by grace
Peer Rela-


Competition, rivalry, and jealousy toward others’ success and position Humility and unity as you value others and are able to rejoice in their blessings and success
Position Feel like a servant/slave Feel like a beloved son/daughter
Sense of God’s Presence Conditional and Distant Close and intimate
Source of Comfort Seek comfort in counterfeit affections: addictions, compulsions, escapism, busyness, hyper-religious activity Seek times of quietness and solitude, to rest in the Father’s presence and love
Theology Live by the love of Law Live by the Law of Love
View of Admonition Difficulty receiving admonition; you must be right so you easily get your feelings hurt and close your spirit to discipline See the receiving of admonition as a blessing and need in your life so that your faults and weaknesses are exposed and put to death
View of Authority See authority as a source of pain; distrustful toward them and lack a heart attitude of submission Respectful, honoring; you see them as ministers of God for good in your life
Vision Spiritual ambition; the earnest desire for some spiritual achievement and distinction and the willingness to strive for it; a desire to be seen counted among the mature To daily experience the Father’s unconditional love and acceptance and then be sent as a representative of his love to family and others




Developing Vision in Those You Are Mentoring By Asking Great Questions by Bobb Biehl

Developing Vision in Your Mentoree/Disciple

(Adapted from Bobb Biehl, Mentoring, pp. 201-202)

 DREAMING…about the Future in a Practical Way

  1. God: What three changes in me would most please our Eternal God in His Holy Heaven?
  1. Dream/Purpose: What can I do to make the most significant difference for God in my lifetime? Why am I on the earth? What is the very best organizational context for my dream?
  1. Primary Result: What is the single best measurable indicator that I am making progress with my dream?


  1. Life Priorities: If I could accomplish only three measurable priorities before I die, what would I accomplish?
  1. Ten-Year Focus: If I could accomplish only three measurable priorities in the next ten years what would make a 50% difference in my life-long contribution, what would I accomplish?
  1. Annual Focus:
    • Focus – What single word best captures the focus of my next year?
    • Opportunity – Where was my greatest unexpected success last year? Why? What three steps could I take now to take full advantage of this “Window of Opportunity” this coming year?
    • Land Mines – What three land mines or roadblocks need my immediate attention? What have I been praying most about in the past 30 days? What three changes could reduce my “risk” by 50%?
    • 30/10/50% – If I could only accomplish three measurable priorities in the next twelve months that would make a 50% difference in my contribution in the next ten years, which 3 things would I most want to accomplish?
  1. Quarterly Focus: What three measurable priorities could I accomplish in the next ninety days to make a 50% difference in the results I see by the end of the year?
  1. Organization: What three categories could I make to see a 50% difference in our morale as a family or team?
  1. Cash: If I had to cut my budget 21%, what would be the first three things to go? If I got a surprise gift of 21% of my budget, what three things would I do immediately?
  1. Quality: What three changes could improve the quality of my work by 50% in the next twelve months?

*Bobb Biehl is an executive mentor. He graduated from Michigan State University (psychology major) in 1964 and received a Master’s degree (counseling) from Michigan State in 1966.

In 1976, Bobb founded Masterplanning Group International. As its president, he has consulted personally with over 400 clients. In that time, he has met one-on-one with over 3,500 executives (board members, senior executives, and staff members) and invested an estimated 40,000 hours in private sessions with some of the finest leaders of our generation. His clients are primarily large or fast-growing churches, nonprofit organizations, for profit corporations, and government agencies.

Based on these thousands of hours of practical “rubber-meets-the-runway” experience, Bobb has originated 35 resources (books, tapes, notebooks) in the area of personal and organizational development. These resources include published books entitled Boardroom Confidence, Dreaming, Leading with Confidence, Masterplanning, Mentoring, Stop Setting Goals, and Why You Do What You Do. His latest book, Dreaming Big, is co-authored with Dr. Paul Swets.

Bobb is a founding member of the board of directors of Focus on the Family. He is also a member of the board of directors of Liquid Metal (publicly traded). Prior to starting Masterplanning Group, Bobb was on the executive staff of World Vision International. While at World Vision he designed and developed the Love Loaf program, which has raised millions of dollars worldwide.

Bobb and his wife, Cheryl, have been married since 1964.

Vision: The Difference Between Day and Night!

A Great Statement on Vision

“All men dream: but not equally. Those who dream by night in the dusty recesses of their minds wake in the day to find it was vanity: but the dreamers of the day are dangerous men, for they may act their dreams with open eyes, to make it possible. This I did.” – T.E. Lawrence from his introduction to Seven Pillars of Wisdom

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